I recently finished reading Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. I’m guessing, like many people I’ve previously only glanced through or skim-read this book primarily looking for the “quick fix” to my seemingly ever increasing workload. Subsequently I’ve heard many people referring to how insightful and useful this book was for them so this time I chose to read cover to cover to find out why. The answer, for me at least, came when I realised that the true value wasn’t actually in the habits per se but rather in the message that like an organisation one’s life needs to be guided by internal values and external principles towards an engaging self- vision and or mission. Intuitively this makes sense.
He defines values as the “internal laws that we feel strongest about and commit to upholding, they guide our behaviour”. I interpret this to mean things like truth, honesty, discipline, courage and honour. For me, values are core beliefs about how one should live such that if one’s thoughts, feelings and behaviours have upheld them one can stand tall, hold their head high and never feel any guilt. This is not to say that adhering to one’s values is easy, often people interacting will do so with different values.
Principles, on the other hand are “natural external laws that ultimately control the consequences of our actions” and provided examples are justice, fairness, responsibility, integrity, respect, cooperation, communication and renewal. To me these are closer to values than his definition of principles although I do think his definition has merit and use. I see principles and the cause-and-effect rules-of-thumb that we each experience every day. Examples might be karma – what you do to others will eventually be returned to you several-fold.
Values and principles therefore provide the rules for making decisions that, if necessary, one can look back and no matter the outcome believe the right choice was made, although this may not necessarily be the best choice. Comparing right and best is like comparing quality and quantity. A choice made according to one’s values is a high quality choice where as a choice that brings about the greatest progress towards an outcome is a high quantity choice. For example, to increase one’s wealth one could save more (high quality) or steal (high quantity).
By themselves values and principles don’t provide direction, this is why one needs to also take timeout to define a personal vision and mission. These are more than just long term goals, they provide the guidelines for defining one’s goals. A vision is basically an imagine that one is willing to dedicate their life to trying to bring about, generally it is a concept that if realised is just as engaging to maintain. A mission statement consists of open ended goals and actions that define how the vision will be achieved. For example, if one has the vision to be the expert at something then their mission might be to pursue lifelong learning opportunities in that domain of knowledge.
Defining one’s values, vision and mission is not easy, it takes time and space to reach deep inside to find what is truly important however the feeling of energy and excitement that comes from doing so along with being able to measure progress towards outcomes desired above all else makes the process worthwhile.
The habits themselves can be summarised as: keep any and all promises you make to yourself and or others; take a collective and cooperative approach to problem solving seeking the best outcome for all; and, regularly reflect on thoughts, feelings and behaviours and make necessary adjustments immediately.
- Be proactive – take responsibility for your life, both where it is and where it is going.
- Begin with the end in mind – if you don’t know where you are going any road will lead you there
- Put first things first – increase priority of goals and tasks with long term benefits e.g. health
- Think win/win – seek the solution that creates the best outcome for all
- Seek first to understand, then to be understood – ethos before pathos before logos.
- Synergy – the whole is greater than the sum of the parts
- Sharpen the saw – invest in yourself physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually